Within my social circle there are no single parents. I don’t know much about the life of a single parent but I can imagine what it must be like. I had a small dose of parenting alone this past week, and my respect for moms or dads that go it alone increased by double!
MY HUSBAND THE SUPERHERO
My husband had to go away for three nights last week. He rarely travels for work so we’re used to having him around most of the time. If you remember a post I did last summer, My Husband the Superhero you’ll know that he’s a very hands-on dad.
So to say his presence was missed is an understatement. Little S and I missed him on so many levels. From the moment we dropped him off at the train station to the moment we picked him up, his absence was obvious.
I had to take extreme measures to manage my week. I was able to work from home two of the three days that he was away. It was absolutely necessary in order to get Little S to and from school, make her lunches and prepare for the evening ahead. On the third day I had to recruit my parents to pick her up from school so I could complete my eight hours at work.
There was no ‘me’ time. Anything I wanted to do that didn’t involve S had to be done after 9 p.m. and that was only if I had enough energy left after my gruelling day to do so.
Timing was a bit off too; Little S was only three days in to the extreme withdrawal symptoms of her pacifier addiction. Looking back, perhaps the decision to rid her of the habit before Daddy went away was not the best choice; they do say hindsight is 20/20.
So I struggled. We got through it relatively unscathed and yes, I did drop her off at school one morning with us both in tears. And yes, we did eat McDonald’s one night for dinner and I admit I used the Playland as a babysitter.
After reading this you might be thinking, ‘wow, this girl has it too easy,’ or something to that effect. And I agree. I didn’t realize how much I relied on having a partner to share the responsibility of parenting with and just how fortunate I am.
I already had an immense amount of respect for single parents, but after living the life, even just temporarily, I gained even more. I wondered how I’d manage doing it full-time.
I decided to ask someone who is a single parent. A very modest Nikki, from Evil Flu is a single mom and a heck of a good one! Here’s what she has to say about the life of a solitary parent.
“As a single parent I always get sympathy from others. I very commonly hear ‘I don’t know how you do it.’ This usually comes when the parent is struggling with their child in a social situation.
“I am not a superhero. I do not have super powers that can control children, although sometimes I wish I did.
“What is my secret? I just do it because I have to. It may be a little more difficult at times, but I get just as much in return as you do, whether it be a hug or kiss or an awesome macaroni bracelet he made at school. My job is simple; make the right choices, be good to my child and love him. Anyone can do it.”
As I said, Nikki is very humble; she makes it sounds easy. She definitely gets my respect and admiration as do all single parents.
Are you a single parent? Were you raised by one?
What are your thoughts on single parenting?